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It’s only natural. And by all means, I am not complaining about it because I love discussing the fact that I will be marrying the man of my dreams in T-minus 3 months! But every time somebody asks me “how are the wedding plans going?” I find myself stumped. I’m supposed to be planning something?!
With all of the lengthy wedding checklists out there, it appears as though it would be an arduous process, but I couldn’t disagree more. Perhaps I’m the anti-bride, or maybe I’ve just really changed my expectations, but I honestly feel like I don’t care about half of the sh*t on those lists. Will I regret it when wedding day comes? Will I realize I actually do have 5,000 things to do the week before? Maybe. But as long as I become a Mrs. at the end of the day, I really don’t think the “extras” are necessary.
I don’t care about flowers. Really. “Don’t you want flowers on the altar?” No. “Don’t you want some for decorations?” No. I honestly wouldn’t have a single flower at my wedding if I wasn’t worried about what I’d do with my hands. So, I guess I’ll get a few for myself to hold and for each bridesmaid.
I’m not choosing colors. Choosing colors to me means that I have to toil over decorations and ways to incorporate it into the venue (which is a bar, decorated like a bar). It also means choosing specific dresses for other people to wear, which I honestly couldn’t care less about and do not wish to spend one ounce of worry over.
We’re using an ipod. No DJ. No band. No designated dance area. Just some background noise to listen to while we hang out with loved ones and celebrate our special moment.
We’re saving a tree. Meaning, we’re forgoing a lot of the stationary involved in your typical wedding. No Save the Dates, no programs, no separate reception or RSVP card. In fact, we are doing all of our RSVPs online so I can’t lose them or mess up somewhere!
That being said, with all of the things I am skipping, there are surely a lot of things I am NOT skipping. I have a shower and weekend-long bachelorette party lined up, as well an amazing photographer and the dress of my dreams. There is certainly plenty of time between now and wedding day to change my mind on certain particulars, but my experience so far has been that wedding planning does not have to be all that involved. It is what you want it to be, so if you’re not into every detail of a traditional wedding, don’t sweat it. Your marriage will be just a fabulous regardless of the amount of pageantry that goes on that day. How about you? What were your "must haves" and your "go withouts"?